The freezing cold was tamed today, it was getting warmer because the sun risen. It wasn’t that chilled at night. Tonight I dine at home. Mom made taro with preserved pork topping on the rice, a homey Cantonese dish. I chatted with my parents during the dinner. Topics involved getting a girlfriend, when to have kids, my career goal at this point, things like that. All of us were a bit thrilled. I went to the kitchen to get another bowl of rice, and the idea came to me: it is a lovely night, it is the time.
Back to the dining room, my dad finished his meal and was editing photos on his phone while mom was cleaning up the table. I asked mom to take a seat. I started a conversation I had been preparing for 3 months.
When I was young, I dreamed to be many things: the Nobel Prize winner, the bestselling author, the pop idol, the anime filmmaker catching an international sensation, the CEO (on Forbes cover), the award-winning illustrator, the architect who left a legacy, the person who changed the world (on Times magazine)… You might think I was just a scatterbrained kid who couldn’t find a focus. I thought so too, except that all those things have one thing in common: They portrait success as one person summiting a mountain of achievements, capturing the mass media attention.
It’s easy to recognize sexism, racism or any “-ism” that discriminates certain groups over others, but actually dealing with them is hard and many choose to look the other way. I believe we can empower ourselves in the professional world by communicating differently. We will find tactics and tools. We can equip ourselves with skills and confidence. We will express ourselves. We will empathize with each other. We will build trust with whoever we want to work and live with. Do you see what I see? Do you believe that between complete ignorance and aggressive confrontation, there is a third option? If yes, Join me.